As we go through life, we don’t sometimes notice that we care so much about what other people think about us, but then something happens where our eyes are opened and we find ourselves hurt and dealing with feelings of inadequacy because of something that someone said.
We value the opinions of others so much that when their judgement of us comes out, we allow that to penetrate our hearts and mind. We start to question ourselves and maybe start to feel like the person judging us is right. But this is not the case.
We have to learn that when someone brings their judgement and tries to hurt us, that it actually has nothing to do with us. It has everything to do with them. Usually when someone is willing to cause you harm verbally, they are feeling insecure in their own life and instead of learning the lesson or growing from whatever they are going through, they would rather make the next person feel small so they can feel big.
I learned a few things about other people opinions and how to deal with my own negative thoughts.
You know You.
Regardless of what people may say or do, you must have faith in who you are and where you stand. People will always have an opinion about you, but never allow that to start to create doubt in who you are. You know You.
Look beyond the words
Usually when someone is being judgmental it is because they are dealing with something. It’s often hard to look beyond the harsh words, to really see someone. There is beauty and love within each of us, and sometimes it takes looking for those qualities to open the eyes of the person doing the judging.
“When another person makes you suffer, it is because he suffers deeply within himself, and his suffering is spilling over. He does not need punishment; he needs help. That’s the message he is sending.”Thích Nhất Hạnh
When people are feeling down, less than, hurt, unhappy and disconnected, they project their negative energy to those around them through harsh words and judgement. When we come into contact with people like this, we have to show compassion.
I know that it’s hard to show compassion to someone that you feel judge by, but the compassion is the lesson that you’re learning and will help you grow. We show compassion not because the other person deserves it, but because you deserve it.
Share your loving energy with those that embrace and love you.
We will encounter and interact with people everyday, but those that you feel judged by shouldn’t get much of your attention. Focus your energy on those that love you and appreciate you for who you are.
Always remember that no one can steal your joy, unless you allow them to.