I’ve been on a slow journey of rebuilding my life after my divorce. I spent the first part of our separation in a deep depression, trying to mask it with exercise and beauty posts, but then my sadness caught me. I stopped working out and gained lots of weight.
In 2019, I something clicked and I wanted out of the funk that that I was in. I needed to rebuild my life. I decided that the first thing I wanted to work on was my health. At my heaviest, I weighed-in at 391 pounds. I was told that I was diabetic and had high cholesterol.
The rebuilding process started slowly, with me going to the gym and walking in the treadmill. Over time I started to incorporate weightlifting and other forms of cardio. I knew that I needed help to stay focused, so I decided to invest in a personal trainer. This was a crucial part of the rebuilding process becauseI needed to be accountable.
As I started feeling a little healthier and started having more energy, I knew it was time to start taking a look at other aspects of my life. I decided to take a look at all the goals and dreams that I’ve had over the years and never acted on or didn’t put in the full effort that I knew I could have. I made a decision to start a couple of things that have scared me but I’ve wanted for so long. I started the ThisCurvyGirlsLife Podcast and I’m working on a digital lifestyle magazine due to launch in March 2020.
Rebuilding your life can come in so many different shapes and forms for each of us, but I think if we are in a constant rebuild mode, we will never get complacent. As I’ve grown in my fitness journey, I had to rebuild my regime or go up in the weight in keep it a challenge. Life is the same way, in order to grow, we have to continually rebuild.
Here are a few areas that I used to rebuild my life…Remember, I’m in a work in progress!
I knew I was dealing with depression but I didn’t realize how deep until I spoke with my doctor and broke down crying in his office. I knew at that moment that I needed to deal with this face on. I was prescribed medication but I wanted to find a different way to deal with the issue. I found exercise. According to Harvard Health Publishing, “Exercise is an all-natural treatment to fight depression. Exercising has been a crucial element in helping me in so many ways.
Dreams won’t work unless you do
We’ve all heard this saying more times than we can count but I will say it again for those in the back, “Dreams won’t work unless you do.” Start working towards your goals today. Take small steps each day to work on your dreams.
I’m okay with failure
One of the reasons that I didn’t follow my dreams earlier in life is because I was afraid of failure. I worked in areas that we comfortable and had the least amount of opportunity for failure. As I’ve been on this journey of rebuilding my life, I’m okay with failure because I’ve finally realized that I won’t be successful with failure. I need to fail so I can rebuild even better and fail again so I rebuild again. With each failure and rebuilding, I’m learning lessons and making adjustments.
Live your life your way
Give up living your life to other people’s expectations. Yes, your friends and family have your best interest in mind however, they are using their personal experiences to give you advice or to tell you what you should be doing. Other people don’t have your vision and and drive, so where they may see failure and want to protect you, you see success and want to go for it. If you listen to other people, you could miss out on the opportunities that are for you and the last thing we want is regret.
Rebuilding your life is not an overnight process. It’s takes lots of time, effort and energy to shift what you are currently comfortable with. Use the above four tips to keep you focused on your rebuilding process.
What is the first step you will take today to start rebuilding your life?